Stop calling it privilege. start calling it proof.
Currently, in my house, there is:
- Husband + 3 kids
- Mom + sister (visiting from the US)
- Full-time house manager (5 days/week)
- Part-time nanny (3days/week)
- Part-time cleaner (1 day/week)
- Part-time pool cleaner (2 days/ week)
- Part-time gardener (1 day/ week)
As the cherry on top, I have my in-laws who live 5 minutes away and help with the baby 2 days/ week.
I’m 7 weeks postpartum.
I’m not drowning. I’m not anxious. I’m not overwhelmed.
I feel fucking great.
And no — I don’t say on Instagram out loud. Because the “must be nice” comments start rolling in. The “you’re so privileged” ones. The “some of us don’t have that kind of help” ones. And to be honest? Those comments used to sting. But then I realized… Every person who calls privilege what I earned is exposing how small they think.
Here’s the truth no one likes hearing
If you see someone living the life you want — and your first reaction is to get defensive — you’re not actually angry at them. You’re angry at yourself for not believing you could have it too. You call it luck. You call it privilege. You call it unrealistic. Because the alternative — taking responsibility — is too painful to face. It’s easier to stay in Victim Mode than to admit you’ve been playing small your entire adult life.
Privilege isn’t the enemy — comfort is
I didn’t come from money. I didn’t marry rich. I didn’t “manifest” this life. I built it. With immigrant parents who still don’t speak fluent English after 30 years in America. With $150,000 in student loan debt, I paid off in 4 years on a single PA income. With a million dollars I made after risking everything and betting on myself. I paid for help. I paid for mentorship. I paid for knowledge and systems and teams. Because rich people don’t complain about what’s unfair — they fix it.
Your money mindset is your ceiling
If you see wealth as “greedy,” If you see help as “lazy,” If you see ambition as “selfish,” then you will subconsciously sabotage yourself every time you get close to winning. Because the Broke Brain doesn’t fear failure — it fears abundance. It doesn’t know what to do when life gets easier. So it wants to create and chase chaos. It wants to resist help. Rejects rest. And then it calls it “balance” or “being a good person”.
Here’s the mindset shift changed my life
Stop asking “why her?” Start asking “what did she learn that I haven’t?” Every time I felt jealous, I studied. Every time I felt behind, I paid attention. Every time I felt small, I invested in getting bigger. Now I live a life where I don’t just survive motherhood — I thrive in it. Because I stopped apologizing for wanting more.
If you’re reading this and something inside you feels tight — like a mix of envy and motivation — good. That’s your cue. That’s your sign you’re not broken. You’re just bumping up against the limits of your old identity. And maybe it’s time to outgrow it. Unconventionally Yours, Sam